I saw a video the other day that had Des Moines has the 10th best place to live in the US

Iowa? You would be bored to death.

Yeah CT is expensive, we lived there for 4 years before and survived fine. It will for sure be a downgrade in quality of life but it won't be anything worse than we had pre-kids and might just regress back to what we had when we had just the one kiddo

So right now, I'm just saving up and doing homework. This chick tried to get me to consider Iowa

I was thinking CT as well, be closer to my immediate family (mother, siblings, etc) in case of emergency. But talking to my uncle who used to live there swayed me away cause of their state taxes, but now I'm not so sure how dated his info is since he's a commuter himself

James wrote: ↑

8 minutes ago

Oh that's a dangerous game. Texas does that but they compensate by jacking up property taxes. So just be aware of that.

Oh for sure, very aware, but I'm not in the game to buy property just yet. I'm just in the zone to lay some roots where I can settle before I turn my attention to building a portfolio of properties

And with having ties there, I had plans moving there. But unfortunate events had disturbed those plans for the meantime

Maryland: My best friend moved there a couple years back before he passed last summer. 2022, I went down to visit and get my 1st car. I stayed 2 weeks out in Glen Burnie, South of Baltimore, and it gave me SC vibes but in a good way

Oh that's a dangerous game. Texas does that but they compensate by jacking up property taxes. So just be aware of that.

Short answer for Tennessee: no state income tax.

Why Tennessee/Maryland?

Okay time to flip this back on you

Say less. Motives my man. Being close to relatives is all well and dandy but your family's future is home. I don't need to tell you that bud. Just don't get stuck in that rut

Plus the headquarters for my wife's job is there too. So it will allow her to advance her career more.

Oh yeah, it's not the end of the world. We enjoyed CT. We liked a lot about it, including the ability to do nice quick day trips to BOS or NYC. A lot more to do being able to do that than here in OKC.

Gotta make moves James, for the better. Ain't that simple but you got more than enough motive to do so

They want us unified to fight a political battle with our lives but keep us divided in our own backyard. Crazy

Yeah, I hate that red/blue system

Also I have a wife, so the women's issue affect her as well.

Caesar wrote: ↑

23 minutes ago

It’s the boomers’ fault the family dynamic is falling apart

facts

The JZA wrote: ↑

23 minutes ago

I believe we just need a whole new voting system in America. Tbh, this shit doesn't work. Having to fight for the right to vote, only for certain jobs to depend on the votes of the masses but the mass don't do their due diligence on these politics and ultimately get fucked by the same hand.

For example my vote doesn't really matter in any national election due to how red Oklahoma is

It’s the boomers’ fault the family dynamic is falling apart

I believe we just need a whole new voting system in America. Tbh, this shit doesn't work. Having to fight for the right to vote, only for certain jobs to depend on the votes of the masses but the mass don't do their due diligence on these politics and ultimately get fucked by the same hand.

Im guessing the boomer/silent generation family members are the ones really holding that extended family dynamic together in most cases

Yeah, a lot of sticky situations there. I'd def get up outta there for the sake of the daughters. They need a fairer chance at the challenges ahead

Like we are in the bottom 3 education wise.

Education is plummeting as our elected leader there is in there for culture wars, also our state essentially views women as second class citizens as they have gone pretty hard on the anti-abortion stuff, to include denying healthcare to women because it might be consider an extension of "abortion".

James wrote: ↑

35 minutes ago

Yeah we are a little better than that but it doesn't outweigh the issues we have with the direction the state is heading

What's the task at hand?

Especially with two little girls

Yeah we are a little better than that but it doesn't outweigh the issues we have with the direction the state is heading

James wrote: ↑

38 minutes ago

We moved back to OK because we thought it would be good to be near family and as we are back we realized that it wasn't what we thought and we don't like Oklahoma

That exactly what that was for me. We came home and family just wasn't family. Nobody reached out unless someone is in the hospital or dead

James wrote: ↑

39 minutes ago

I have my own life with 2 kids, my wife and I both have full time jobs. We do major holidays but really we don't do much outside of that.

That was the norm for my family as well, but we all connected through my great grandmother. She was a mason & did a lot for her community during her day. But we can just pop up there to her place and someone would be there already visiting. Like, I missed that honestly

We moved back to OK because we thought it would be good to be near family and as we are back we realized that it wasn't what we thought and we don't like Oklahoma

We have a site in Tarrytown

Ay. A random place in America mentioned that I’ve heard of!